Comments for Gardens of Resistance

Comment on Understanding Milk by admin

admin — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 11:13:50 +0000

Wow, ZM, I guess it is all linked in these little circles! It is neat that you had that connection. And OMG about being hospitalized. I didn’t get my felony conspiracy charge until 10 years later. Luckily, I think by that point they had figured out they shouldn’t beat up protestors.

Comment on Understanding Milk by zombie mom

zombie mom — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 07:46:30 +0000

A lovely post- I like your political blogs. I have to admit I haven’t seen Milk- read the book, as always. I was hugely affected by the whole Dan White riots and aftermath – not directly, but because in 1984 when I was arrested for a felony conspiracy and then beaten up and hospitalized by the police- it was a survivor of the DWR’s and that police violence who came to my assistance.

A loose group linked to Bound Together came to aid and support those of us who has be beaten around the DemCon-84 and through them we were taught the history of Milk, Moscone, Feinstein and Dan White.

There is such a long legacy of social justice- and injustice- its nice to take a step back and reflect upon it. I still find the footage of Feinstein’s announcement utterly painful.

Comment on Blog Stats by zombie mom

zombie mom — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 21:03:25 +0000

I adore you blog- and I have to say – you are remarkably talented as a massage therapist. And seriously, I am not just saying that to be nice- I am insanely picky about my bodyworkers b/c I am spoiled living here in the Bay Area.

Thanks and let me add a happy testimonial anytime about your healing touch. Out of pain for the first time since the car crash.

Thanks

Comment on The Castle Bed by gxd

gxd — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 10:20:50 +0000

That’s a beautiful bed and a beautiful feeling behind it. We should not be ashamed about actions that come out of love, even if they may be naive.
My husband and I have been meeting kids from Colombia (through Kidsave) and are going down to LA to meet another little girl this weekend. Our hopes are to adopt one child from Colombia and later one, one through the foster system here. We’ll see…
Good luck with your search. At least you know now what to look for and you’ve certainly opened my eyes as well!
Best-
Gisah

Comment on The Castle Bed by zombie mom

zombie mom — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 23:14:29 +0000

I love the Castle bed and have to admit- and kind of hate to- that I felt like I SHOULD have had something that great for our kids… we barely had a crib when the Commander came hom…. and now-a-days- they like to sleep on the floor with their noses pressed against the crack of the door, but I digress…

I still love that castle bed and it touches my heart that you put so much effort in securing and installing that perfect bed for your kids…. And can I just say- the kids area in general- so beyond impressive and thought filled!! I have to admit when you were advertising it- I almost jumped!

I just want to honor how amazing you guys are and were as parents and how inspired the spaces you created were for the T’s were and are.

I love the castle bed because it taps into the little girl inside me and promise of cherishing the little girl inside whatever girl-children you let into your lives!

Just saying- a powerful symbol- you rock!

Comment on “You may consider this notice of disruption…” by zombie mom

zombie mom — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 20:01:05 +0000

I am just so sorry you had to have this experience. It such a gamble the whole foster to adopt experience. Unfortunately, the systems are outdate, out of step with the needs of both kids and parents and at the mercy of local departments and social worker discretion.

Comment on Things we wish we had known by gxd

gxd — Tue, 26 May 2009 13:28:26 +0000

Hi- I just wanted to say a big thanks for writing this blog. My husband and I just completed our PRIDE classes and are hoping to adopt in Santa Clara county. We know another couple who adopted siblings in Alameda county (but now live out of state) and they have provided lots of good info.
The information you provide has been so helpful to both my husband and me. We are at the very beginning stages but will continue to follow your story with your two girls. This last blog was one of the most informative as we do not want to start the process without knowing what we’re getting into. I trained as a child advocate so I’m familiar with some issues facing the children in the system. Attachment issues are what scares me the most and we will just have to be diligent in asking the right questions and not being afraid of saying what we feel.
Thanks again!

Comment on A Day in the Life… by admin

admin — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 13:00:01 +0000

Notice that there is hardly any work on any given day for either of us. How do single or poor parents do this? I don’t get it.

Comment on Plagued by Doubts by zombie mom

zombie mom — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:53:45 +0000

I am sorry its so hard – you have our support for any and all decisions you make regarding your family. Having seen you in action- I know you are doing a terrific job!

Its so frustrating to me that the social workers were not up front with you about the condition and needs of your kids… Unfair to all involved and another way the system is broken.

Let me know what we can do to support you and J!!!

Comment on Looking Up. by zombie mom

zombie mom — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:49:09 +0000

Wow, thought provoking post. I so empathize with some of your thoughts/feelings on bonding. It took me longer than I thought with La-la and now that bond is utterly and totally there.

Hang in there for the wild ride of the legal wranglings. We just got done with our final hearing and made it past the last appeal period- the birth dad totally rejected attempts to terminate his rights and there was all kinds of drama and delays due to his residence in prison and budget cuts making transportation to hearings a low priority….

Glad that you are doing better – and remember joy is often a series of brief moments…

Looking forward to meeting in person.