I recently watched the PBS documentary on Jim Jones and the mass suicide in Jonestown. It is almost incomprehensible how many people died there and the destruction of many families that occurred. It is hard to imagine being in a group that harnesses so many hopes and dreams and ends up paranoid and […]

J- and I turned in our application last week.  This is the second-to-last step before we enter the “matching” process, where we actually start looking at kids!  There are a few pieces of the application that are pending, but the bulk of it is done. 
The application was fun, grueling, and emotional.  We had to check […]

Operating Instructions is an amazing chronicle of the first year of Anne Lamott’s life with her baby boy.  It describes the best and worst of mothering a newborn infant and she faces up to feelings that aren’t easy to acknowledge since having a baby is pretty idealized in our world.  She is a single mom, […]

I find political arguments against breeding to be a bit silly. Well, yah, there are already enough people in the world and kids that need homes. But in our specific area, people are choosing to have fewer kids and many people are adopting. Actually, from all that I understand, adopting a […]

I certainly don’t want to underrate the power of the banners hung on the Golden Gate Bridge or the sheer numbers of people that showed up for the torch protests. In a time that Americans are being given questioning glances by the world because of our bifurcated voting, the results of our last election […]

A Child’s Journey Through Placement
I am almost finished with this book, about 40 pages to go. I love this book. It is the first book that I have read that has really helped me to understand the psychology of kids in the foster-care system without being completely terrifying.
It uses a lot of case studies of […]

 The Kid by Dan Savage at goodreads.com.
I am sooo glad to not be in a relationship with someone as funny and smarmy as Dan Savage.  On the other hand, these qualities make for a great writer.  This was a really great book to get a thoughtful perspective on what an private, open infant adoption can […]

The Complete Book of Adoption at goodreads.com.
This was a great book to get an overview of the different ways to go about adoption. It does a good job of explaining them and helping readers understand the pros and cons of each form, so that they may decide which is best suited for them. It […]

I really started this blog as a simple way to start writing about the adoption process. A few months ago, I realized how many neat things that I was doing that I had wished that I kept better records of. In tandem, the process of foster adoption is so complicated and confusing…there is so […]