I remember my excitement about finding Facebook. Finally, a spot where a lot of my closest friends and, well…just everyone… are all in one place.  They were not all there when I started but most of them are now.  There was a rush of reconnecting with folks from high school and some ex’s and a [...]

I got a credit card in high school because one of my friends told me that I should start working on my credit rating before I left home for college.  She was right, although maybe ahead of her time.  Actually getting the credit card gave me the opportunity to make up for the somewhat inadequate [...]

Because J- is recovering from a vasectomy, our decision is at the forefront of our minds.  Here are more reflections on a topic already discussed here.
J- and I were discussing a friend and her decision about how she will become a parent. We reflected on our own back and forth about whether we wanted to [...]

I wonder if people in other states ask people where they are from all the time.  If you live in Illinois or Alabama, is it just assumed that you are from there?  Of course, here in California, most people are NOT from here, so that is a common conversation topic to get to know a [...]

Over the years, I have participated in many collective working and living projects.  Several years ago, I was recruited by a group called the Matchbook Learning Project. We sponsored classes for adults in the anarchist community.  The vision was a way to keep people in community in times of life that it is harder to [...]

I recently watched the PBS documentary on Jim Jones and the mass suicide in Jonestown. It is almost incomprehensible how many people died there and the destruction of many families that occurred. It is hard to imagine being in a group that harnesses so many hopes and dreams and ends up paranoid and [...]

I find political arguments against breeding to be a bit silly. Well, yah, there are already enough people in the world and kids that need homes. But in our specific area, people are choosing to have fewer kids and many people are adopting. Actually, from all that I understand, adopting a [...]

When my father was in a coma in the emergency room a few weeks ago, I initially didn’t know what to do. I knew that I wanted to go down there, but I wasn’t sure why. I hadn’t been close to my father in over 10 years. He had done things to my [...]

My dad died. Twice, actually. The first time that he died was very suddenly. He suffered from a pulmonary embolism on the morning of February 23rd, 2008. His wife heard him breathing heavily as he left the bathroom and grabbed something from his closet. Shortly after, he collapsed.
She called 911 immediately and they [...]

My father suffered from a pulmonary embolism on Saturday that gave him severe brain damage.  On Wednesday morning, it was clear that he would not improve or survive and that keep him on life support was the equivalent of torture.  The hospital staff extubated him in the afternoon and he took his last breath at [...]