About a month and a half ago, J- and I decided to complete our fost-adopt application so that we would be certified to work with A- County. This was partly because we had been done with the rest of the process for a long time. It was also because we were tired of the complicated answer that we were giving every time anyone asked us where we were at with it. It went something like this:
“We have to fill out the paperwork, which should be pretty easy since we have done it before. The paperwork includes references which may take a few weeks to get back. We also have to go down to the county and get fingerprinted and it takes a while for those results to come back. When we decide to, we could be ready for a placement within a month or so. But, it is possible that there will not be a good placement for some time. The most important thing for us this time through is to not feel too rushed or worried about anything.”
So now, our references and the fingerprints are in process, probably nearly done. We could receive a call any day saying that we are ready for our final home inspection.
Another part of the answer that we were sort of leaving out is that we have a house guest, N-. We have never been sure how long she would be staying with us, so we have been waiting to see how her situation evolves. She is great to have around, in general, and as a nurse and mother of 3 would be a great person to have around with a baby. Unfortunately, she has been pretty ill lately. So ill that she has had to be in and out of the hospital. It has been touch and go and hard to imagine having a baby or kid in the house. Until now.
Late last week, my friend ZM called saying that her beautiful daughters have a brand new biological sister who was born on the 17th in an area about 4 hours away from us. That county had called her to see if she could take the new baby. Although she would like more kids, hers are 2 and 4, plus she has a very active business and is a single mom. She decided it was too much for her. Although she told the county about us, the county is first trying to place the baby in a home within their county. There is a slight chance that those homes won’t pan out and ours will become an option.
Meanwhile, our roommate is improving and willing and able to live with a baby. We feel lucky for our spacious house which could allow N- to recover even with a baby in the house. It does add a variable to our certification process and we remain unsure whether all of these things can be worked out if the little one does become a possibility for our family.
